Some Reflections on Marriage from G.K. Chesterton


“If Americans can be divorced for “incompatibility of temper” I cannot conceive why they are not all divorced. I have known many happy marriages, but never a compatible one. The whole aim of marriage is to fight through and survive the instant when incompatibility becomes unquestionable. For a man and a woman, as such, are incompatible.”~G.K. Chesterton: ‘What’s Wrong With the World.’

I get married in forty days. I couldn’t be more excited and I couldn’t be more scared. I know there is a lot I’m unprepared for; even pre-marital counseling, wonderful as it its, can’t teach us everything.One thing I do know, and one thing I trust: God’s grace is sufficient. We will have our struggles, we will frustrate one another, we will lose our tempers (though I pray not often), but by God’s grace we will get through it. Chesterton’s words are a great reminder of this. Happiness in marriage cannot be based on “compatibility of temper;” two sinners are by nature incompatible. What it can, and must, be based on is Ephesians 4:32, “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.”
May God give us the grace to do so, not only in our marriages but in all our relationships.

Devotional Thought: Fearful and Forgetful



Lately God has been showing me how fearful and forgetful I am. It is so easy to get caught up in the midst of my circumstances and lose sight of who God is. But get this: the God who delivered Israel from slavery and parted the Red Sea is the same God who raised Jesus from the dead; the same God who delivers us from slavery to Satan, sin, and death through the waters of our baptism, and raises us to new life in Christ. If God can do that, surely he can handle whatever life may throw our way! Don’t be afraid, remember what the Lord has done.

“If you should say in your heart, ‘These nations are greater than I; how can I dispossess them?’ you shall not be afraid of them; you shall well remember what the Lord your God did to Pharaoh and to all Egypt: the great trials which your eyes saw and the signs and the wonders and the mighty hand and the outstretched arm by which the Lord your God brought you out.” Deuteronomy 7:17-19